It has always been an issue whether to tell or not to tell to a friend that you love him/her. Some thinks that it will only destroy good friendship. Others would say if it turns out lucky, there will be a good romantic relationship ahead of you because you started out as friends and knows each other very well. Both are true depending on the situation.
Some says good relationships are those that started out as friends. This is very true because friendship is a good foundation of love and romantic relationships. It is much different from those relationships that started out with crushes, desire, lust and infatuation. If you started out as friends, it means that you know each other very well and you get along together. This is because you may have a lot of things in common. That is your advantage. You already know how to understand each other and therefore, giving both of you lesser conflicts in the future.
There are also cases where in confession of love to a friend will cause friendship to fall apart. This happens when feelings are not mutual. After the big confession, a big gap might occur and the feeling of awkwardness comes in that leads to not seeing each other and sometimes both seems to not care anymore. So before confessing anything, try to weigh things up first.
What if he/she doesn’t feel the same way about you? When confessing your feelings to your friend, you should understand that there is that BIG risk that you should consider. You might lose the friendship or even that person that you really cared about. So what should you do? You can try the following. Hope it can help..
1. First, you have to make sure that what you feel is really really true. You might just love her/him like a sister/brother. REMEMBER that you are taking a risk here. So be true to yourself first.
2. Don’t make things in a hurry. Take your time to realize and absorb everything.
3. Talk to your other friends about it and seek advice. But be careful, choose your friends that won’t jeopardize everything and won’t tell your friend about your true feelings.
4. It is very important to show her/him that you care and always be there for her/him. Overtime, she/he will notice how great you are to be an ideal girlfriend/boyfriend.
5. When you think the right time has come. Look for the right place to say it. Not in front of other people cause he/she might get humiliated. (More applicable for boys/men) After your confession, ask her if she feels the same way about you and give her time to think about it. Explain to her very well that you don’t want to destroy your good friendship. If she doesn’t feel the same, relax and accept the truth. Don’t cry in front of her and beg for love. Just be the same person as if nothing happened and ALWAYS try to be there for her and make her happy. Who knows after sometime she might realize how perfect you are for her.
What if your friend loves someone else or he/she is already committed? If that is the case, it is best if you don’t tell him/her yet. Look and wait for the right time. Don’t make stupid things just to break them apart. If you’re a true friend and you really love him/her you should not take him/her away to the love of his/her life. Who knows time will come that the couple will face a problem/break up situation which is a very good opportunity for you. Comfort him/her and always be there for him/her. Overtime he or she might realize that you are the one he/she is really looking for because of your good qualities like for comforting him/her, for being supportive and being there always.
Recommended topics:
* How to win a girl's heart
* How to make a relationship work
* How to make him/her stay
* Break-ups: How to move on
Some says good relationships are those that started out as friends. This is very true because friendship is a good foundation of love and romantic relationships. It is much different from those relationships that started out with crushes, desire, lust and infatuation. If you started out as friends, it means that you know each other very well and you get along together. This is because you may have a lot of things in common. That is your advantage. You already know how to understand each other and therefore, giving both of you lesser conflicts in the future.
There are also cases where in confession of love to a friend will cause friendship to fall apart. This happens when feelings are not mutual. After the big confession, a big gap might occur and the feeling of awkwardness comes in that leads to not seeing each other and sometimes both seems to not care anymore. So before confessing anything, try to weigh things up first.
What if he/she doesn’t feel the same way about you? When confessing your feelings to your friend, you should understand that there is that BIG risk that you should consider. You might lose the friendship or even that person that you really cared about. So what should you do? You can try the following. Hope it can help..
1. First, you have to make sure that what you feel is really really true. You might just love her/him like a sister/brother. REMEMBER that you are taking a risk here. So be true to yourself first.
2. Don’t make things in a hurry. Take your time to realize and absorb everything.
3. Talk to your other friends about it and seek advice. But be careful, choose your friends that won’t jeopardize everything and won’t tell your friend about your true feelings.
4. It is very important to show her/him that you care and always be there for her/him. Overtime, she/he will notice how great you are to be an ideal girlfriend/boyfriend.
5. When you think the right time has come. Look for the right place to say it. Not in front of other people cause he/she might get humiliated. (More applicable for boys/men) After your confession, ask her if she feels the same way about you and give her time to think about it. Explain to her very well that you don’t want to destroy your good friendship. If she doesn’t feel the same, relax and accept the truth. Don’t cry in front of her and beg for love. Just be the same person as if nothing happened and ALWAYS try to be there for her and make her happy. Who knows after sometime she might realize how perfect you are for her.
What if your friend loves someone else or he/she is already committed? If that is the case, it is best if you don’t tell him/her yet. Look and wait for the right time. Don’t make stupid things just to break them apart. If you’re a true friend and you really love him/her you should not take him/her away to the love of his/her life. Who knows time will come that the couple will face a problem/break up situation which is a very good opportunity for you. Comfort him/her and always be there for him/her. Overtime he or she might realize that you are the one he/she is really looking for because of your good qualities like for comforting him/her, for being supportive and being there always.
Recommended topics:
* How to win a girl's heart
* How to make a relationship work
* How to make him/her stay
* Break-ups: How to move on
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