How to Make Him / Her Stay

Have you ever wonder why a lot of people tend to end up a relationship? This usually happens nowadays and most people seem to have some common mistakes in handling their relationship. That is why most of them try to let go of that very special love. And what’s even worst, by the time they realize their mistakes, it’s already too late for them to save the relationship.

In order for us to know the things we can do to make our partner stay is to know first the reasons why they tend not to stay.

These are the common reasons why most of us fall out of love or have a tendency to end up relationships:

- Cheating/Unfaithfulness
- Not spending enough time together
- Forgetting an important occasion like anniversaries, birthday and holidays
- Lack of communication and attention
- Not respecting one’s opinion and decision
- Failure to reciprocate one’s love, trust and effort

Cheating is the worst destroyer of relationships. It wounds up your partners heart deeply and sometimes can leave a scar. Sometimes, men reason out that they cheated because they were just seduced. It can be true but no matter what the seduction may be, if you really love your girl, you won’t do it. Though men are the best cheaters of all time, have you girls ever wonder why they cheat? Girls actually have some mistakes too. Sometimes men cheat because their partner neglects them. Men need the attention of his girl. They wanted girls to make them feel loved and they want girls to be sweet to them always. Lack of these things can trigger men to cheat. So girls, try to always make your man feel the warmth of your love. Extra sweetness is a big factor also. Make sure you have lots of them. Boys, try to be thankful for the love your girl is giving and never forget to give your love back in return.

Not spending enough time to your partner weakens your attachment to one another. The more you are not present in your partner’s life, especially in important events, the more chances for you to lose that person. Giving enough time to one another makes both of you feel secured. It does not only give you an assurance that your partner does not see someone else, but also it will make both of you create beautiful memories and experiences in your relationship. These memories will strengthen your feeling towards each other. But don’t overdo this. Sometimes, being with each other all the time can make a relationship boring and dull. You or your partner may find it very usual and natural being together. You might lose the tingling feeling and excitement, so sometimes better give yourselves time to miss one another. So remember, give enough time but not too much.

If you are forgetful like me, try to list down important events/occasions that has a meaning to you and to your partner. You can also make some reminders to your cell phone or organizer just for you not to forget special days like your partner’s birthday, anniversary or even holidays. Greetings can also be a big factor in a relationship. It makes your partner realize that you value and cherish special moments and significant events in your relationship.

Lack of communication and attention especially in times of problems and conflicts can create a bigger problem to a relationship. Most of the problems in a relationship can be avoided if only both know how to listen and pay attention to one another. This can alert you for potential problems that may arise and help you avoid them since most of those problems came from lack of communication and time spent with each other. Be open to one another and be honest.

It is always a big deal for someone to be respected. In a relationship, decisions and opinions should be respected. Listen to what your partner has to say before you make a negative comment. Support his or her decision if it’s best for the both of you. Decisions should be made with mutual consent. Don’t treat your partner as your subordinate. Treat yourselves equally because you are partners, and partners have equal rights.

Failure to reciprocate one’s love, effort, sweetness and care is one of the main reasons why most people cheat. They tend to look for someone else who can make them feel the love, care and sweetness they are longing to feel that could have been from you. Not being expressive is a big mistake. All of us always wanted the feeling of being loved and cared by the person we love. If you can’t show it to your partner, how will your partner show it to you? If you want to keep your partner, show him/her what you got and give him/her your best. That way, cheating will not be possible knowing your partner doesn’t need anybody else but you alone.